She prefers to believe that the confusion for those living here is about adopting a certain lifestyle, not about one’s roots. Tag Heuer Bollywood stars tote products on billboards. Sultana Tahrin, a 45-year-old housewife originally from Bangladesh, likes to bring her 10-year-old daughter, Maliha, to the stores that offer traditional jewelry, and shoes so she can foster her daughter’s interest in her native land and lessen the pull of American culture.
However, a lot of Desis living in the United States feel more American than their parents would like to think.
She said she has a 20-year-old daughter who wants to date outside of her culture, which she forbids.
In fact, she is not allowed to date at all and would be immediately sent back to Pakistan for an arranged marriage if she disobeys.
“My cousins living here speak Hindi, watch Bollywood movies and celebrate Hindu cultural events,” she said.
Bandyopadhyay feels that addressing someone, as ABCD is a bit derogatory as it implies that one is confused about his or her roots.